Observer Effect Part 2

WOW! What a treat it was to watch the ducks in action Sunday night! Out in Waterloo with Tina's friends; a group of highly entertaining boys decided to go as Duck Hunt. Do you remember that game? The old school Nintendo game where the ducks fly around and you are the hunter and you have a gun and try and shoot the ducks then this hunting dog comes out and laughs whenever you hit a duck? That's the game. There was a hunter, a dog and four ducks.

Easily one of the funniest things I have ever witnessed. The getting into costumes was SOOOOO entertaining. They taped their shoes with orange duct tape, painted their legs orange, wore white beaters and white shorts cut open a feather pillow and dumped it onto a tarp in the living room then proceeded to spray themselves with adhesive spray and roll around in the feathers. Truly entertaining to witness. The dog was probably the cutest of all of them though...


Anyway the most impressive part was watching them in the bar. Other than the hunter the boys are all single. I have never paid attention to the way guys work until that night. The ducks came onto the dance floor in a "V" formation; tribute to the mighty ducks. They made a circle just them to dance and soon their circle had a bunch of girls in the middle of it. Honestly I'm not even sure how it happened. I mean the boys are pretty cool and have very fun and easy going energy so it did not totally surprise me that the girls were seriously attracted to them but they were COVERED in feathers! Did the girls not notice? :)

At the end of the night they all went home alone but man did they have a good time. Watching them made my night. They were just having so much fun. I really enjoyed my night as well. I just relaxed danced and sang along to basically every song they played- retro night is always the way to go! In the end I had a ton of fun because I was totally unattached to what the outcome of the night was to be. I had no expectations, only the intention to be there for Tina and to have fun! AND my intention became reality!

Thanks for a fabulously entertaining weekend Duck Hunt and Tina!

Observer Effect

Halloween is always a very interesting experience for me. This year went to two different parties and dressed up differently for each. I decided that for the first time ever I would be a little bit more on the slutty side and so I went as a call girl, Chicago inspired. And for me it was pretty ambitious. Then my second party I was Madonna while Tina was Brittney from their video together, "Me Against the Music".

Now of these two costume one is obviously more revealing than the other but neither one of them is as scantily clad as some of the outfits I witnessed this weekend. I was both impressed and slightly revolted that girls, and even some of the guys for that matter, would ever wear the things they wore.

I am keenly aware of that fact that I am in judgment here so let's just state it right off the bat and I can continue this post without you being in judgment of me being in judgment. Does that sound fair?

Halloween is a fantastic excuse to use to do whatever you want and to be something you are not OR to be something you've always secretly wanted to be and have not had the guts to do in real life. It is the one day of the year that it is accepted to dress as a axe murderer or a hooker or a cowboy or a juice box. Some of the costumes I saw were very clever and funny while others really made me think about how these people may feel about themselves.


There were a group of about 9 girls who had their hair sticking straight up in a cone shape above their heads and each of them had it spray painted a different color. They had skin colored fabric wrapped around their boobs and a skirt of the same color as their hair. What where they? I had to ask because it wasn't making any sense to me! Turns out they were trolls. Do you remember those weird troll dolls that people just loved and collected? I suppose these girls along with some others who were equally if not more scantily clad have their reasons for doing it the possibilities just escape me. As for the guys there were a few that were just slightly disturbing; guys in female bathing suits and other with just super creepy energy.

Anyway stepping into an observer roll last night was highly entertaining for me. I got to watch people interact in way they may be outside of their norm because it was accepted. I'm curious as to what a normal night out for them would be though... being in a costume is a safe and acceptable way to do things that you would normally not do. It's just interesting to me and I felt the need to share it with you!

Ravish

Definition of ravish: to overcome with emotion especially with joy or delight- Merrian-Webster Dictionary.

I personally really like this definition. Yes there are other parts of the definition I am just going to choose to focus on this one because it is happy and makes me smile.

Masculine and feminine energy are very different. For anyone who would like to disagree with me that's fine I would just like to you acknowledge that this statement could be true before you continue to read this post, otherwise you'll just be angry and you will not actually learn anything.

The Way of the Superior Man, if you have read my blog recently is a book I am currently reading which is a spiritual guide to mastering the challenges of women, work and sexual desire- the book is written for men true, however ladies it is SO interesting and very enlightening to read. Yes there are parts of the book that are less relate-able for me as a female reader, however they are still very interesting because it gives me a sneak peak into what goes on for guys.

One of my favorite parts of the book is when David Deida is explaining how in a relationship in order to have that 'je ne sais quoi' quality of passion and desire and polarity you need to have a ravisher and a ravishee. Not that it matters necessarily whether the ravisher is the man or the woman but typically males have a more masculine essence where as female have a more feminine essence. Agree or disagree I don't much care but I will speak for myself. And then you can decided where you believe you stand.

Would you rather be the ravisher or the ravishee? Think about this carefully... In a typical situation; because of course there are times where you feel like being the other but the majority of the time which role would you rather play? This may be TMI but I would rather be the ravishee. It's nice to not be in control or have to make the decisions sometimes. Picking a restaurant to eat at... sometimes I really do want to go to a specific one and other times I just want to be surprised. Make a decision and go with it. I don't have to know all the time or be responsible for it even if I want to.

Guys; have you ever called your woman up and said, "We're going out tonight. Put on that short red dress that makes you look sexy and be ready for 7pm!" Ladies have your men ever done this? I know that my first question would be, "Where are we going?" Here's the catch though- I don't actually want to know! I am asking because I am curious but I would rather you not tell me! Allow me to be surprised and keep me in a state of not knowing, forcing me to go with the flow and fall into my feminine energy more easily.

And so men to ravish is to open up so lovingly with your woman that she has no choice but to open and receive it. Now if only I could find the guy for me... :-)

Inspired

When I was talking to a friend of mine the other day about my blog he asked me if I had written one about him. I told him that I had yet to do so and that I could. Actually as soon as he asked I knew what I would write about.

And so Jared this one's inspired by you...

Have you ever had a friend who is just absolutely present to you and there when you need them? Have you ever had someone who just emanates love and support and understanding? Have you ever had this person be someone you literally just met?

This summer while working Wizard Training Camp out in Squamish, BC I met Jared. I had never met him before and these are all qualities that he has. In truth he's pretty freckin' remarkable. He has this way of talking to you where you feel like you're the only person around for miles! He makes you feel important and cared for plus he's a great cuddle buddy and fun to dance with!

I am fortunate to have the privilege of meeting amazing people like Jared everyday. People who see me for who I am and not just what I do or where I come from. People who see past all the stories to the real essence of me. I am also lucky that I have this same ability. There are times where I find it easier to see past the shell to the person beyond and others when it's difficult. I understand why some people are harder to get past and it's because there's something vital that I see and notice and learn from- they are mirrors for myself in some way.

Either way I want to say thanks to Jared for reminding me that I can see past the stories to and that I have the ability to be as present as he is, as accepting and as loving as he is. Love you Jared!

How's that for an inspired post about you?! :-)

The Bottom Line is...

I swear if I heard that phrase one more time this week I may have actually slapped someone! Have you ever been talked to like you were 5 years old and had no idea how to do something that although is a large undertaking is pretty self explanatory? Well that's how I felt this past week.

Working an event I took on a very large task, which is so worth it to see the participants at the end of the course- they are just so happy and excited! Anyway I took on this task and with the PHENOMENAL team that we had the task got done quickly, efficiently and well! I asked for assistance when I needed it and offered it when I could. The team did the same thing! They were also a bunch of self starters- they did not need to be reminded to come and help out they just showed up when they could and worked so smoothly together. I was blessed with this team this week that I cannot even explain how wonderful it was to just know it was all getting done beautifully!

This frustrating part was when leadership would question why we were doing things one way when another would be 'better' and why some things where not done yet and how to do simple things. I understand that they need to be kept in the loop as to what our progress was but it was not pleasant to not feel trusted. At least that's how I felt about it. I just felt like I was not trusted to get it done.

The bottom line is that we got it done with FLYING colours! From the very start of the undertaking to the very end of it everything went smoothly and beautifully and I am so thankful for the experience. I owe my Canadian team a huge thank you for working with this summer on how to trust others to do their jobs and on how to relax into a situation and allow it to just unfold.

The bottom line is that everyone has their own way of doing things and I have to work on allowing them their space. The VERY bottom line is that I LOVE MY LIFE and I get to learn something new or am reminded of things I can work on for myself everyday and that is awesome!