Tuesday, December 28, 2010

The Question Game

An amazing friend of mine who's name shall only be revealed later on... ok really it makes no difference I just thought it sounded cool.

My friend Nick and I have, since we met last year, been playing 'the question game'. At least that's what we call it. He asks a question, we both answer it and then it's my turn to ask a question. The questions started out really simple and easy; favorite color, number, movie, song, food... all the favorites basically. Moved up a notch to something that required a little more thought; if you could visit anywhere in the world right now where would it be? if you could say one thing to any person, dead or alive what would you say and to whom? describe your ideal date... any number of ones like that. Of course we have also asked about sex, which seems to be inevitable because it's the one topic everyone thinks about and we tend to not talk about it. So once the conversation has begun and you know the other person is gonna give you an answer what questions would you want answers to?!

I have had fun with 'the question game'. I really enjoy playing it with Nick because he asks some of the most thought provoking questions. I also enjoy teaching the game to others. My mom and I played during our walk on the beach today. In the hour we were walking we hit a very big range of various questions. I like playing with large groups of people as well. I remember one night at Manoir (the local brasserie) Nick, my brothers, Tina and two other friends played the game. We each took turns asking and everyone answered. Some of the question were awesome and the answer boring and vise-versa.

I have decided to begin keeping a log of all the question I would want to ask while playing the game. If you have any that you think would be good questions let me know. I love learning about people and laughing at all the things that we seem to remember. So ask your friends and family some questions that you really want to know the answer to... However I recommend starting with small easy questions, like the favs, in order to establish a trusting relationship- you are keeping this info to yourself.

Here are a few more thought provoking questions I heard today;
- where is the one place in the world that you have to see?
- if you could have a conversation with anyone- past or present who would it be?
- if you could take back anything you've done what would you take back?
- what do you want your tombstone to read? aka what do you want to be remembered as?

I thought that last one was pretty intense- thanks Mom. Think of some questions you want to know the answer to and then just sit back and enjoy their responses. Just listen to what comes up!


Saturday, December 25, 2010


"To cry is to shed tears as a response to an emotional state in humans"

This morning I woke up and it was Christmas. I got out of bed, dressed and packed all my things and then the car. We had to check out of our condo by 10am and would only be getting into our new one at 2pm. The car was packed by 9am so that we could get on skype with my brothers and our extended family that they are spending Christmas with, the Melos.

We got to share in their opening of gifts ceremony. Everyone was in their "forbidden" room, clearly not forbidden on Christmas day because that's where the tree is, and they were going around in turn opening one gift after another.

My family has not been into big Christmas' for almost 15 years now. We have, however, always been into family. And so to not be spending Christmas with my brothers really got to me this morning. I did not realize how much I miss them until I realized what I was missing watching everyone be together on Christmas morning by the tree opening gifts. I know it's silly because we did our 'Christmas' on the Thursday evening before we left. Still I shed a couple of tears while walking on the beach. It just made me sad to not be with them. I miss you boys. I love you so much and wish that we were all together for Christmas.

All that being said I walked the beach I waited for piece of them to find me. That must sound so weird when I say it like that but that's what I did. I thought of both my brothers and a select few others who I am making gifts for and asked for pieces of them or of thing that would serve them to find me. I managed to collect several feathers of various shapes, sizes and colors, shells and drift wood. I am very excited to actually sit and sort through all of my collection to see what I have found for each of them. My creative inspiration is continuing into this coming week!

So this post is really about family and about how much I value mine, both immediate and extended. So from my heart to yours may your Christmas be filled with love, gratitude and joy.

Merry Christmas!!!

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Inspired Creativity

A good friend of mine, came into town this week to hang out and unwind after a pretty hectic six weeks. She was inspired to make her nieces and nephews dream catchers. We went to a gem stone and bead store by the beach and she found her materials. I chose to make myself a necklace for my new year's outfit and bought supplies to accomplish that task.

The next day, having seen the beautiful dream catchers she had managed to create; each one totally different from the next, I was inspired!

I searched through all the supplies we had at our disposal and then headed back to the store to collect more! I spent the rest of today; in total it probably amounts to approximately 8 hours of crafting time to create three dream catchers. Holy smokes! When I think about it like that I cannot even believe that I have that kind of patience. I did take a break to read for awhile and to eat- always super important!

After 8 hours though I have three very different dream catchers for three similar and yet different people. It's amazing what happens when I just start working. My hands moved things around just right to create something so unique and beautiful.

Thank you for the inspiration Kathleen! I now have four more to go! :)

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Deer and Moon

Ok so it is now 3:21 am on December 21st, 2010 and I cannot even believe that I am still awake and able to write this blog. That being said I could not imagine going to sleep without first writing this post. You are going to need to bear with me because it may take awhile to get to the point since there's some back story needed.

My father does work with Human Software Engineering, which may mean nothing to you and that's ok- the important thing to understand is that it is basically emotional de-cluttering. You know how we go through spring cleaning the get rid of stuff that you no longer need in your physical space? Well this gets rid of things that you no longer need in your emotional space.

This afternoon I sat with my parents and worked through my emotions and fears around being in a committed relationship. When I was 17 I started dating this guy, many of you know who I am talking about here but for my own sanity and for his sake I am gonna call him Bob. Bob and I were doomed from the start I now realize because I went into that relationship because I was running away from something else. That's no way to start a relationship! Anyway we hurt each other. Badly. I obviously had still not fully cleared out all of my emotions around it. We dated for 2 years and then went through a roller coaster ride for one more after that. It's now 5 years later and only now did I feel ready to be in a committed relationship again. Knowing I had shit to clean out I sat with my dad.

He took me through a process call the core technique. In my understanding of this process you are meant to find the absolute source, in your body, of the pain you feel around the situation. You focus on that spot and it will either expand, shrink or stay the same. It took awhile but this was my own experience today;

I was very small and the pain was all around me. I got mad. I wanted it gone and out. I found a sword and I began chopping at the forest that I seemed to be in. the trees were thick but I could see the source of the pain in the woods. I had to get there to destroy it. I chopped and chopped and chopped until I finally reached this stone. I got to it and without hesitation stabbed the stone with my sword. The stone exploded into a million little pieces that were now strewn across the forest floor. I felt released. I looked up and saw a deer watching me. She was beautiful. She stood and I could feel her. She was there to let me know that she was there for me and that everything was ok. Everything is going to be ok and that I am safe and protected. She cares for me and will be with me every step of the way. She let me know that it is now time to move on. And then this little white fluffy bunny appeared next to me as if to say, "Ok where are we going? Let's go!"

I felt so phenomenal afterward. This rest of the afternoon was nothing particularly special or momentous but the wee hours of this morning were. This morning at 1:33am the lunar eclipse process began. It was/is a full moon, a lunar eclipse and the winter solstice all in one night- an event that only happens every 330 years or something. I went to sleep and set my alarm to wake me up so I could be a spectator to this momentous event.

I stepped outside at 1:30 to the full moon still intact. Again at 1:50 and it was now slightly covered. Again a few more times and then one last time out the front door just as it became fully covered.

On the last time that I went outside to take a picture from the front of the house I turned and there not more than 10 feet away from me was a deer. The deer had stopped in it's tracks to watch me and I was paralyzed watching it. We just starred at each other and I knew. I knew that this deer was here to let me know that I am perfect and I am loved and that everything works out perfectly. And of course I turned to look at the moon and when I turned back it was gone.

I went through a process last year in attempt to find my spirit animal and it did not happen. We did not complete the process fully. I thought my spirit animal was a dolphin because they are just the creature that has called to me for awhile, and I do love them. Today however I discovered that my spirit animal, the animal that is watching over me is a deer. Truly an incredible 24 hours!

I LOVE my life!!!

Monday, December 20, 2010


This morning I took one of the bikes from our shed and rode down to the beach. Just me, the bike and my iPod. What a spectacular morning. The sun is shining and there's a nice cool breeze. True it's kinda cold- I had a hat and gloves on but it's still beautiful.

My favorite part of the beach is walking up and seeing the grass. I know it seems odd but there is just something about the grass that grows on this stretch of beach here in Hilton Head, SC. It has this soothing feel to it. It's just there enjoying the breeze and the sounds and the smells of the beach. It has a prime view of sunrise and all the people that walk by and the expansive ocean. I just love seeing the grass, it just makes me happy.

While on my walk I noticed that the waves were bringing in a good amount of foam. At first I didn't really think anything of it. Then I began to watch it. The waves would come in and whatever foam they brought with them would join some of the foam that was already on the beach. Sections of foam became very large in a short amount of time while others seemed to disintegrate. Then the very large ones would loose sections, they would break off to be their own group and wait for more chunks of foam to join them.

This whole foam process reminded me of life and of groups of people. My family, I'll start with them since that's the foam group I was born into, is one foam group of five people and our relatives are part of our group which makes us pretty large. Then sections of our relatives disconnected. Other sections of non-related family members joined. Now our foam group is pretty freckin' huge if you ask me. We have so many friends, whom we call family and family whom we call friends.

It made me happy to watch that even those sections that broke off were still ok. In fact they were doing well. They got more sections of foam to join them and make them larger and stronger. Which metaphorically for me represents kids in a family- they leave the family nest to build their own and get bigger and stronger. They haven't left the foam group all together they are still connected by the ocean they are simply expanding in their own space before re-joining.

It's a little ridiculous really that I manage to find a link to 'real life' in such random things sometimes. Well everything is a lesson right. The question is whether or not you are willing to learn them or even see them.

I am super thankful for my ever expanding family! Thanks for being there and for joining our foam group!!!

Sunday, December 19, 2010


"It's approachable, fresh, flavorsome and has a personality all of its own."

Where do you think I saw that line? I got it from somewhere. I mean I am not nearly that talented with words. When I read it my first thought was how happy I am when I read these labels (there's a hint for you). My second thought was that it sounded like the perfect date. Think about it wouldn't it be a wonderful date if they were approachable, fresh, flavorsome and had a personality all their own? By the sounds of it you would certainly not be bored and would likely either love or really dislike the person.

Have you guessed where I read it yet? One more clue- I drank the contents beyond the label......

[yellowtail] is an Australian wine that I have come to enjoy drinking. I have sort of come to enjoy drinking all kinds of wine actually- unlike beer which I have still not even remotely acquired a taste or interest in. Either way I have realized that I love reading the wine labels, they are so beautifully written. I understand none of what they are really trying to convey as far as what the wine will taste like, however they make me want to buy and drink the wine because there is so much love and happiness written into the labels.

The next bottle of wine you pick up in the store read the label. Just see if you feel what I feel. I'm willing to bet that most of you will think I'm crazy, a portion of you will sort of get it and the rest will agree with me. Or at least I hope that some of you get it or agree- it would sorta suck to be the only one who enjoyed reading the labels people obviously took the time and care to write. However I suppose it's sort of like my blog- even if only one person reads it and gets something out of it then that makes my day!

I will continue to read the labels and enjoy them while I drink the delicious wine they are describing.

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Give generously and Receive graciously

This is a saying that a company I once worked for uses. I love it, which is a big reason as to why I even worked for the company- I believed in what they stood for.

There is part of the saying that I find I am able to do really well, for the most part while the other half of it I sometimes struggle with. Now is probably the time of year that I am the most keenly aware of my lack in one area...

Give generously- I find that I am pretty solidly decent at doing this. I love to give gifts, make gifts, make cards, give gift certificates, wrap gifts and so on. I just enjoy doing all of that stuff. My family did a secret Santa exchange and I wanted to wrap everyone's gift for them even though it was meant to be a secret. I was the only one who had figured out who everyone had- side note. I enjoy watching people open the gifts I've made or bought them because I helped to put the smile on their faces when they see it.

Receiving graciously- however, I find that I struggle with sometimes. I certainly did this week when receiving some of my gifts. Some were brilliant and perfect for me and some were... well not so much. In my stewing over it I realized that whether or not the gift is perfect for me, in my own opinion means nothing because in the end it's always perfect because oh shocking I am learning a lesson from it. Be grateful and graciously receive it because it was given to me and someone took the time to wrap it, buy it and give it to me. They made an effort and cared enough to make said effort and that I appreciate. Therefore I am going to say thank you once again for my beautiful presents, I really do appreciate that you care enough about me to get me something. xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

And so my lesson- to continue to work on receiving graciously in all aspects of my life- not simply in my ability to do so with gifts- but also with assistance when offered!!! (That one is HUGE for me so if you see me struggle help me out will you?!)

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

It's the most wonderful time....

Of the year...

My family has, for at least the past 10 years, not been super 'into' this time of the year- being Christmas. I mean when we were younger we did the real Christmas tree, and all the cookies, and the roasted chestnuts and the house lights. Then when I was around 12 we started going down south for Christmas because my dad got the full two weeks off, working in construction and all. My parents have always valued vacations which is probably why I enjoy travelling so much now because although much of the time I am travelling to work it's still travelling and I do my best to stay an extra day and make it a vacation! Small side note...

This year is not much different. We are heading down to Hilton Head, South Carolina on Friday for two weeks. This year though we get to come back for New Years Eve, which is very exciting because we are going to be having a big yummy turkey dinner with lots of friends over, which always makes me very happy. We are also only doing one gift each. We decided at the last minute to do a secret Santa gift exchange with a max spending limit of $30... I went slightly over that limit with the gift I got for my person, that's ok though because they are going to love what they got!

Here's the one thing that I like about this time of the year: getting to hang out with fabulous people that I love. My family and my friends. I also love making Christmas cards for everyone since it gives me the space to be creative AND utilize my gift of writing- which some of you may agree that I have if you enjoy reading this blog, while others may disagree and that's ok! Either way though I enjoy writing the inside of the cards even more than designing them.

So here's a Christmas card for all of you to enjoy.

May you have yourself a VERY Merry Christmas and a marvellous New Year which brings you love, joy, passion and purpose!
With lots of love,

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Love Life

The past couple of days I have been running a number of errands all over town (well let's be honest it's really all over the west island of Montreal). My point here is that I have run into several people who, it appears, do not like their lives. They are what my very good friend Tina would call "Debbie Downers" and they are also riding the "Bitter Bus".

When I saw or encountered these people my first thought was, "What the hell is their problem? Just cause their lives suck does not mean they have to take it out on me!" And then the slightly more enlightened part of me pipped up and said, "Veronica these people just need some extra love. They may not be in a fabulous place and they may just need some love and acknowledgement." And so I was polite to them and I sent some extra love and light their way. Who knows if I made any kind of difference however I felt better about the way that I was thinking of the situation.

I am forever grateful for the life that I have and if sending a little extra love, which I have an abundance of in my life, will help them I can certainly do that!!! Hope all of you can send some extra love to those who may need it. In the end we can all use it, yes or yes?!

Love you all!!!

Saturday, December 4, 2010

And the learning goes on...

This is kind of a delayed post because I needed some space to debrief before sitting to write it. Had I written this post earlier on in the week it would not have been a very pleasant reading or writing experience for you or me respectfully.

I understand that I continue to learn everyday. I just do not always remember that this is in fact what happens. Sometimes I really do wish that I could just stop learning for awhile and just be stupid. And then I think about it for a split second and realize how idiotic and selfish that thought is. And then I look to the sky and say something along the lines of, 'sorry- I'm just a little frustrated right now. I know that I am going to understand what you are doing eventually. Please keep teaching me'.

Last weekend I worked the Millionaire Mind Intensive and man did I learn a ton. I find it so interesting how I learn more by working and volunteering than I ever did while I was sitting in the seats. Ok rephrase that- whatever I learned while sitting in the seats gets to be applied while working the back of the room and as long as I am open and willing to continue to learn I get a lot out of working.

I discovered that in order to set a team up for success they need to have a leader; someone who has the ability to give instructions confidently and compassionately. Someone who is keenly aware of everything that needs to get done or is not afraid to ask. Someone who is open and willing to take feedback. And someone who can handle several different personality types while staying on task and true to who they are. It took me a full day to realize that this was a key missing ingredient to our structure last weekend. Once I figured it out though I corrected and everyone continued.

Things just fell into place beautifully from that point onwards. True that I still had a few challenges with certain things and I got a whole other learning from that! I discovered that if I ever want to become and Event Supervisor for Peak Potentials I have to figure out how to deal with unpleasant situation in a way that is productive and effective. I can't continue to get annoyed by it because it begins to in-effect my work and others around me when that happens. I am very grateful to the people who listen to me and allow me to just release whatever is going on- now I just have to find one or two people I trust implicitly that I can do that with, rather than have four or five.

In the end of course it was a phenomenal weekend because I learned so much about myself and others. And so I am also grateful to the universe for putting the perfect team together to teach me. Yes there are times that I was not very impressed and the bottom line is ;-) that everything happens for a reason and that reason is there to serve me!